Where is that safe place that you go to and dream of the woman you aspire to be?
Who is that chick? We know…she’s a boss that can “read people their rights” quick fast and in a hurry if they try to play her.
How does she look? Is she no longer obsessed with losing weight, but more concerned with getting in shape? Does she not need to spend a ton of money on a dress to look fly?
Is she a business owner that is confident (or learning to be) in her product or service?
Is she going back to school and obtaining her degree or certification?
Is she writing a memoir and no longer cares that no one may want to read about her Superhead-less like antics?
Is she the best mommy, wife, daughter, single girl, or friend she can be?
I have always had a vivid imagination and would often times, especially in school, not pay attention and daydream (hence the reason I was reading on a 1st grade level in 4th grade lol) . I am sure others have done so as well. What happens is somewhere between childhood and adulthood women settle into comfortable lives in which they are not necessarily unhappy, but believed for some reason that her dream was unattainable. She may think that dreams only come true for certain kinds of women, and not her.
Why does someone like Beyonce or Oprah get to live out their dreams? Me to God: “Aren’t I special God?” I can’t sing, I can’t act (except in bed-that is a joke-I probably suck at that-that’s another joke), I don’t have a wonderful speaking voice. What makes them different from me?
On a physical level nothing separates them from us as we all are made of the same thing, dust.
I must add that we blow away faster than Beyoncé’s dust because she refuses to go away and if you look closely her dust has little shimmer in it. However, differences set in intrinsically as these women most likely have different mindsets that are required to help us realize our dreams. They have the same fears the average woman has yet they combat it with a hefty dose of courage.
“Courage doesn’t mean that you don’t feel fear, it just means that you do not act on the fear by being inactive in the pursuit of your dreams.” Robinette Ptolemy
Another equally important note about accomplishing your dreams is that, it takes hard work and grinding. These women put in so much work to get to where they are. (Peep Oprah’s billion dollar empire or Beyoncé’s stellar Superbowl performance.) They got to this point because their desire to want to win became stronger than their fear of failing.
Most people care so much about what other people think and whether they will laugh at them, especially if they fail at their dreams. This is where women conform. And then hate on the other chick that stepped out the box. THAT IS CRAZY! Yes failing hurts, but if you continue on you will eventually find what works and have the last laugh. Remember, he who laughs last, laughs the longest.
If you look around many women have settled. Settled for ranky dank jobs when they can most likely get paid more. Women are visionaries! This is evidenced in the way we utilize our exceptional skill of innovation to create imaginary relationships with real life men. We do this because we don’t fully understand our worth.
But moving on to the richest place on Earth
Do you know where the richest place on earth is?
It’s not Africa, not Dubai (is that in Africa), China, or the United States of
I recently heard from someone that the richest place on Earth is the graveyard. Million dollar and billion dollar company ideas get buried with the now lifeless for many reasons. Fear most likely being the main culprit.
I refuse to believe you don’t have a dream. I don’t care if it is to open a Cupcake and Chicken restaurant in a swanky downtown financial district where only the suits frequent, its still a dream.
So when can you begin to pursue your dreams?
You will only begin to be on the road to accomplishing your dreams when you change your mindset and really believe that you can win AND when your desire to win becomes stronger than the fear of failing.
What works for me is to pray and ask God to instill in me courage to move past my fears and to trust myself, and not pay attention to naysayers.
Make bold decisions today, that make you unstoppable tomorrow.