Confessions of the BASIC Chick-Part 2: Tend to your garden and start hoing

Confessions of the BASIC Chick-Part 2: Tend to your garden and start hoing

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Finding the Root of basicnessbrunette chair

Hello, my name is Robinette and I was a basic chick.  I am guilty.  For me admitting that I was a basic chick is like (hypothetically) admitting that I smoked crack that one time….Ok not that drastic, but you get my drift.  Although I knew that I am a great person and woman, somewhere deep down inside I didn’t feel as if I deserved my true hearts desire.  However, awareness is a good place to be in.

Becoming aware of something is the point when you are not only cognizant of an action, thought, etc it is when you simultaneously feel the repercussions of said action/thought and from then on, desire change.  Once you are aware that something is there, missing, lacking you can now find the root.  The root is important because often times, when we do things or act a certain way that has an undesirable outcome it is most likely the cause of something that is deeply embedded in your subconscious.

If you are posing as a boss chick by day and live a basic chick life by night there is most likely a deficiency that you are not aware of and you will subconsciously sabotage your chances of greatness.  Your conscious mind is easy to access.  For example, “turn right at this light,” “don’t eat another damn donut Robinette.”  Your subconscious, however, is a little more difficult to access.  But once you access your sub consciousness it will tell you why you don’t resist that donut, or settle for mediocre treatment from others.

I think some reasons a woman can become a basic chick (because you were not born one) is rooted in fear and feelings of inadequacy.

In the area of fear I believe the fear of rejection is what compels most women to live at a basic level and not step out of the box and into their God ordained purpose.  Simply because as much as we say that we don’t follow the crowd, or proclaim that we are grown (insert expletive) women, we all have a deep desire to fit in.  To decide that you will follow your dreams of becoming a writer, singer, etc and kill the basic chick takes courage because not everyone will support you.  Since we have a deep desire of acceptance we forsake our dreams just to be accepted and please other people living basic lives.  That sounds crazy to your conscious mind huh?

The feelings of inadequacy goes much deeper.

We all know on a conscious level that we deserve a fair treatment in life and we do positive conscious actions to ensure we receive good things (karma).  However, we almost always sabotage things subconsciously.  Jealousy of other women is rooted in feelings of inadequacy-A basic chick characteristic, being a doormat for men-a basic chick characteristic.  Your subconscious tells you that you are not good enough, that you have always lived at a basic level, and will continue to do so.  This is destructive thinking and will keep you at a basic chick level.  It does not matter how great (or not so great) you look, how much your job pays, or how many degrees you have. Your mindset has to change first.

Can you identify your root?

What deep rooted things keeps you at the same level or on the decline?  The title of this post is entitled “tend to your garden and start ho-ing.”  For the record, this is the only time I will encourage a woman to start ho-ing.  Figure out what deep rooted feelings you have that are holding you back from greatness.  You can pray or meditate on it, but in order to see what you need to see, you must be consistent in these positive actions.

Confessions of the basic chick life- Part 3 coming soon!

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My name is Robinette and I love cupcakes, cakes, and donuts! I am a follower of Christ, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. I believe my life’s purpose is to empower women by inspiring them to rise to optimal living, hence the blog. I believe that I am already a success because I am following my dreams and on track to my life’s purpose and what to see other women do the same. I will share my life’s lessons and the wisdom I have gained from it using my signature humor…Ok I’m not that funny.
  • blackpowerflower

    i LOVE this blog!!! I didn’t realize it, but i think i might be…a…basic chick!!!!! Well, at least i’ve owned up to it. What you were saying about wanting to fit in struck a chord with me. But i’m not sure i agree that the deep down desire is to fit in (since that implies following the crowd and a lack of free/critical thinking); instead, i think that the deep down desire is to be loved and understood, and to feel like we have a place or a people to which we truly belong. many of us cannot seem to find this within our families, esp. Black women b/c we are so damaged yet we are the backbones of our families — without us, who will hold our tribes together? i also was struck by your mention of female jealousy. it is soooo important to surround yourself with positivity, jealousy and hate are to be avoided at all costs!!! but what do you think is the root of that? and how can one tell whether her friends are jealous or envious?

    • robinlove08

      Thank you pumpkin and Lol! Here is what I meant by the deep desire to fit in: I believe that most people do not pursue a life of greatness and remain at a “basic” chick level for many reasons but one being because they don’t want to be the odd one out. They are worried of what people may say or think about them, for example starting a business or pursuing other dreams. I do agree with you as to people want to be loved and understood but couldn’t that be tied to fitting in? Some of the residual effects of fitting in is knowing that you are loved, appreciated, and understood by others. If you step out the box and attempt to slay the “basic” chick in you, there is a degree of uncertainty as to those positive residual effects aforementioned, so people avoid it.

      As far as jealousy and envy I understand you realize there is a slight difference. Jealousy is a basic chick trait and I believe it is rooted in feelings of inadequacy. For some reason said woman believes that they cannot experience the success another woman achieves and said woman shouldn’t have it either. They may feel deep down, I don’t have that talent/gift so I can’t make this life work for me….not realizing that they have another talent/gift that is unique to them. A jealous person looks to what others have and just hates because they think they(jealous person) have nothing to contribute. An envious person is slightly different. An envious person can be quite ambitious and is working towards a dream but things just haven’t popped off yet for them. Envy rears it’s ugly head often times when a friend is enjoying some kind of success whether it be financial, relationship wise, spiritual, career, etc. And envious person can be happy for someone else’s success but in the back of their mind they are wondering when their come up will be. Envy can be more of a friendly competition and can be quite healthy, as mentioned in Robert Greene’s book 48 Laws of Power. It can inspire you to do better, and I say that lightly, that’s why it is good to surround yourself with go-getters and not slackers because you will continually set the bar high and reach. At the same time you had better tread lightly on that water of envy. Now for determining whether your friends are jealous or envious that’s tough. Maybe I can write a post on that!

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