Hello, my name is Robinette and I was a basic chick. I am guilty. For me admitting that I was a basic chick is like (hypothetically) admitting that I smoked crack that one time….Ok not that drastic, but you get my drift. Although I knew that I am a great person and woman, somewhere deep down inside I didn’t feel as if I deserved my true hearts desire. However, awareness is a good place to be in.
Becoming aware of something is the point when you are not only cognizant of an action, thought, etc it is when you simultaneously feel the repercussions of said action/thought and from then on, desire change. Once you are aware that something is there, missing, lacking you can now find the root. The root is important because often times, when we do things or act a certain way that has an undesirable outcome it is most likely the cause of something that is deeply embedded in your subconscious.
If you are posing as a boss chick by day and live a basic chick life by night there is most likely a deficiency that you are not aware of and you will subconsciously sabotage your chances of greatness. Your conscious mind is easy to access. For example, “turn right at this light,” “don’t eat another damn donut Robinette.” Your subconscious, however, is a little more difficult to access. But once you access your sub consciousness it will tell you why you don’t resist that donut, or settle for mediocre treatment from others.
I think some reasons a woman can become a basic chick (because you were not born one) is rooted in fear and feelings of inadequacy.
In the area of fear I believe the fear of rejection is what compels most women to live at a basic level and not step out of the box and into their God ordained purpose. Simply because as much as we say that we don’t follow the crowd, or proclaim that we are grown (insert expletive) women, we all have a deep desire to fit in. To decide that you will follow your dreams of becoming a writer, singer, etc and kill the basic chick takes courage because not everyone will support you. Since we have a deep desire of acceptance we forsake our dreams just to be accepted and please other people living basic lives. That sounds crazy to your conscious mind huh?
The feelings of inadequacy goes much deeper.
We all know on a conscious level that we deserve a fair treatment in life and we do positive conscious actions to ensure we receive good things (karma). However, we almost always sabotage things subconsciously. Jealousy of other women is rooted in feelings of inadequacy-A basic chick characteristic, being a doormat for men-a basic chick characteristic. Your subconscious tells you that you are not good enough, that you have always lived at a basic level, and will continue to do so. This is destructive thinking and will keep you at a basic chick level. It does not matter how great (or not so great) you look, how much your job pays, or how many degrees you have. Your mindset has to change first.
Can you identify your root?
What deep rooted things keeps you at the same level or on the decline? The title of this post is entitled “tend to your garden and start ho-ing.” For the record, this is the only time I will encourage a woman to start ho-ing. Figure out what deep rooted feelings you have that are holding you back from greatness. You can pray or meditate on it, but in order to see what you need to see, you must be consistent in these positive actions.
Confessions of the basic chick life- Part 3 coming soon!