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Archive-Confessions of the BASIC Chick-Part 1: The double life

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Warning: Extreme repetition of the term “basic chick.”

Basic chicks.  Like air, they are everywhere.  Basic chicks work.  Basic chicks cook.  Basic chicks are in bookstores.  Basic chicks get pedicures, basic chicks tear it down on the dance floor.  Basic chicks date basic guys and they hang with other basic chicks.

So one might ask “what exactly is a basic chick?”   Well according to Kendrick Lamar (I’m rocking my Poetic Justice braids), she is a woman who does not live life on an everyday basis.  She is the woman who lets life happen to her.  The basic chick lives, just in survival mode.

Contrary to what you may think a basic chick  is not necessarily a scantily clad ratchet female that is in the club every other day.  The basic chick is *drumroll* a woman who lives below her full potential even though she has precious dreams and aspirations of being better and accomplishing more in life.  She dreams about making those strides in life, but she leaves the dreams in her mind and heart making excuses for not working towards them.

The basic chick does not create her own positive experiences.  Yet, she looks to external things to create her happy and passively decides to just “go with the flow” (I will talk about that later) in life and relationships.

The basic chick is one who has not found balance in her life.  She is the type of women who can excel in one area of her life and fail completely in another equally important area.  For example, she is the woman who can be highly educated or one who can hold a steady job, yet when it comes to relationships with men she strikes out, or when it comes to her health she neglects it.  

The basic chick is the one who will lay down with a man who has no commitment to her on Saturday night, then attend church (by herself) on Sunday morning with arms outstretched praying “Oh, Lord send me a man!”

So what do I know about this basic life? I lived it! I know the ins and outs of this mediocre life.  I looked to outside things to satisfy me.  I would look at other people and want what they had not realizing that I was sitting on unclaimed abundance.  It is important to take inventory of your life and focus on the good as your starting point.

I challenge you to write down what good things you have in your life and refer to the list at least everyday.  This post is not to put any women down, but it is to lift you up.  What I’ve learned in life is sometimes the truth hurts.  I also don’t believe anyone is perfect and that things in life will not always be perfect, but it is irresponsible to not take control of your life and reach whether it is to be a better woman, mom, career wise, or straightening up your finances.  I would bet that most women live a life below their full capability.  If you can identify with any of these characteristics, don’t fret, their is hope towards living a life in which you realize your full potential.

Has any of this struck a nerve? Let’s fix it. Ain’t no time like the present.

Stay tuned for the 2nd part of the series that gets to the root.  Sometimes you have to take one step back to take two steps forward!

*Be empowHERed*

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My name is Robinette and I love cupcakes, cakes, and donuts! I am a follower of Christ, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. I believe my life’s purpose is to empower women by inspiring them to rise to optimal living, hence the blog. I believe that I am already a success because I am following my dreams and on track to my life’s purpose and what to see other women do the same. I will share my life’s lessons and the wisdom I have gained from it using my signature humor…Ok I’m not that funny.
  • I’m glad you dropped by my blog and directed me to your blog. I felt my toes being grazed by many of the “basic chick” characteristics 🙂 I’m glad you defined this term in a way that shows that most of us alive have some areas in our lives where we are mediocre and basic. I think your blog will challenge women to take an inventory of their lives and find ways to live the individualized greatness God really wants for us. Even though we are blogging in two different genres, we both have the same message. My story may be entertaining and full of mess and drama, but my intended message is the same as yours: to help people listen to their lives and follow the path that is right for them to achieve their happiness, joy, and greatness. I would love to find a way for you to be a guest blogger and share some inspiration in the future. Keep up the good work!

    • robinlove08

      *Tears* That is so beautiful and thoughtful. Keep the drama and mess coming cause I will read lol. I believe I subscribed to the blog but I’m not sure if it went through. But, I could def do the guest blogger thing and you as well if you’d like. As for the blog I just got tired of seeing women settle for mediocrity and figured the best way I can reach the most people is to blog about their (ass). Lol Somebody gonna stumble across it. We have so much more to offer and we just don’t rise, and don’t even try, to what God has predestined for us. You and I should keep in touch. I could probably have something to you at months end…maybe before if you are interested. You have a book in you somewhere! Get to writing.

      • Thanks, Robin! I’m kind of learning as I go, so as soon as I get some kind of method to my madness, I definitely would love to collaborate on something.

        • robinlove08

          I am trying to find my rhythm as well!

  • Ciara504

    Wow, I’ve never heard the term “Basic Chick” defined like this … and now that I have, I realize that I’m most certainly guilty of some of these characteristics. ESPECIALLY the part about excelling in one area in life and failing, in another … Quite the eye opener my dear … we can all use a wake up call , this is most certainly mine … I cant wait to share this with others.

    • robinlove08

      Girl I was able to write it cuz I live(d) it! It is not about us being perfect (please don’t try), however I would like to see more of us obtain balance and do equally well in different areas of our lives. Girl, I just got tired of doing SO well in one area of my life and not doing well in other areas. That was my wake up call

  • Ty Wilson

    Great description of a basic chick…but what about the guys? There are plenty of basic dudes riding coat tails all day long…

    • Girl, we know many of the dudes are basic…but it just seems as if women can’t afford to be basic. We are responsible for important stuff in this world. For example giving birth to other humans lol. We got too much to lose!

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