Warning: Extreme repetition of the term “basic chick.”
Basic chicks. Like air, they are everywhere. Basic chicks work. Basic chicks cook. Basic chicks are in bookstores. Basic chicks get pedicures, basic chicks tear it down on the dance floor. Basic chicks date basic guys and they hang with other basic chicks.
So one might ask “what exactly is a basic chick?” Well according to Kendrick Lamar (I’m rocking my Poetic Justice braids), she is a woman who does not live life on an everyday basis. She is the woman who lets life happen to her. The basic chick lives, just in survival mode.
Contrary to what you may think a basic chick is not necessarily a scantily clad ratchet female that is in the club every other day. The basic chick is *drumroll* a woman who lives below her full potential even though she has precious dreams and aspirations of being better and accomplishing more in life. She dreams about making those strides in life, but she leaves the dreams in her mind and heart making excuses for not working towards them.
The basic chick does not create her own positive experiences. Yet, she looks to external things to create her happy and passively decides to just “go with the flow” (I will talk about that later) in life and relationships.
The basic chick is one who has not found balance in her life. She is the type of women who can excel in one area of her life and fail completely in another equally important area. For example, she is the woman who can be highly educated or one who can hold a steady job, yet when it comes to relationships with men she strikes out, or when it comes to her health she neglects it.
The basic chick is the one who will lay down with a man who has no commitment to her on Saturday night, then attend church (by herself) on Sunday morning with arms outstretched praying “Oh, Lord send me a man!”
So what do I know about this basic life? I lived it! I know the ins and outs of this mediocre life. I looked to outside things to satisfy me. I would look at other people and want what they had not realizing that I was sitting on unclaimed abundance. It is important to take inventory of your life and focus on the good as your starting point.
I challenge you to write down what good things you have in your life and refer to the list at least everyday. This post is not to put any women down, but it is to lift you up. What I’ve learned in life is sometimes the truth hurts. I also don’t believe anyone is perfect and that things in life will not always be perfect, but it is irresponsible to not take control of your life and reach whether it is to be a better woman, mom, career wise, or straightening up your finances. I would bet that most women live a life below their full capability. If you can identify with any of these characteristics, don’t fret, their is hope towards living a life in which you realize your full potential.
Has any of this struck a nerve? Let’s fix it. Ain’t no time like the present.
Stay tuned for the 2nd part of the series that gets to the root. Sometimes you have to take one step back to take two steps forward!