Thank Me Later: 28 Life Lessons For The Black Millennial Chick

As I bring my 28th year to a close (next month) I am reflecting on some life lessons that I have learned in this time. It is good to reflect on life and see how to improve and what to pass on to the next generation.
  1. You are responsible for your life.
  2. Fairy tales aren't real! No man will come rescue you. Not from your uneventful life or financially. You have to throw the life vest out to yourself.
  3. Confidence is your best accessory. Wear it well.
  4. Make good connections and maintain genuine relationships.
  5. It is not selfish to put yourself first.
  6. Your goals are attainable. Pursue them.
  7. Believe that you are able and then others will believe it also.
  8. Someone else's opinion of you has nothing to do with you.
  9. If you settle for less, don't be surprised at what you get.
  10. Set your standards with boos from the start. Let him know what your expectations are in your ACTIONS not just your words. No Netflix and Chill. Don't let him stop by the house just to chat until he has taken you on a few dates.
  11. Experience the new. Stay away from people who tell you what they won't ever try.
  12. Stay in your own lane. Don't worry about what others are doing and what they have done to get it.
  13. Don't talk about another woman's vagina. What she does with hers is her responsibility, not yours. Keep up with your vagina only.
  14. Speaking of: make sure to get your check ups down there!
  15. Start doing something about your financial future now.
  16. No one should be able to guilt trip you into anything. Sex, favors, loaning money, nothing.
  17. It is ok to have a small circle of friends. You don't need a big entourage, because best believe there is a hater somewhere in there.
  18. Set strong boundaries for yourself.
  19. Whatever it is that you do, put 110% into it.
  20. Sometimes, it is best to do nothing.
  21. Assess the energies you allow into your life.
  22. Make travel a priority.
  23. Date men who DO what they say, not what they SAY they will do.
  24. If he disappears once and then tries to come back, don't let him back. That usually means she didn't want him and he is coming back to someone that he knows does.
  25. Look at your circle. If you are the only one making boss moves, you need to expand to find others doing the same thing as you.
  26. Learn how to say no and not be afraid of hurting anyone's feelings.
  27. Stop waiting for the perfect time to do something. The stars won't align unless you take action.
  28. Continue to use contraceptives until you are absolutely able to take care of a child.

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Hello Monday-My Body Is My Own

I've never felt like my body was my own. "Girl, whet?" Allow me to explain. Ever since I can damn remember I was taught that how I dress, how my appearance is, hair, face, body looks is all to appease a man. To snag a man.  Being at a man's discretion. As if women have no power and that we all have to fight for attention of one bum ass man lol. I have had men just straight up feel like they were entitled to the pleasures of my body and to be in the presence of my beauty. Yea, I said beauty lol. But seriously, if y'all are chilling and he wants to try and you say no. Then he tries again like 5 mins later. It's like, how dare I say no or maybe she didn't mean NO no? Yes, this happens and often (not to me anymore). I've always felt like a piece of meat almost.  How damaging is that to young girls to feel this way? That all of our end goals is to get a man. Eat cornbread to get thick cuz Brandon likes ass lol. Relax your damn hair, because some men don't like natural hair. Or when you are single it is "always make sure you look good when you are going out because you never know when you will meet a man." Or the mindset I had as a non-committed woman going to the gym. If I'm single, you can't keep me out the gym. My tits must be perky (well as much as they can get lol) and my ass motto: You can never do too many squats! I think I spent the majority of my time working my ass out lol. But guess what happened when I got a man? I stopped going to the gym and gained 20 pounds. Like, to hell with my health I's got a man now! Nothing else matters! Goal accomplished! You see the problem with that? Allow me to break it down. If you don't do shit for yourself, it will fall away at the wayside easily. Your appearance should not be tied into receiving male attention and getting a man. It should be because you want to do it. You want to look good and your health is a top priority. Because guess what happens if you don't get that attention. You began to question yourself. "Bish, I got my sew in with my Peruvian Wave, my face is beat, I've been working out non-stop for 2 weeks straight, and my outfit is on point. I know he seen me and still not hitting me up." It's a hard realization to know that you can be someone who is known for being "confident" but that you been faking the damn funk. I appreciate looking good and attention is nice, please don't get me wrong, but I have had to make some personal adjustments in my motives. It is time that I do things for me and do it my way. Not for the approval of others. Muah!

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Hi! My name is Robinette.

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I am not a role model… just a messenger. Since I can remember, I have been in love with helping myself to do better and helping others.



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