Sitting On Your Gifts

Everyone has a talent and/or gift. It is up to you to discover what it is. We may not have the vocals as Whitney Houston, the acting of Lupita, or the great hand technique of your favorite Makeup Artist. Some people know their gifts from a young age, many people, however, have to uncover their gifts under trial and error. Most people do not EVER discover what their God-given talent and gifts are. These same people have had many thoughts and ideas on things that they would like to do or try, but fear holds them back. "What will they think if I make a career change at 35? I would have to start from the bottom. I am too old to do that." So instead of stepping out on that desire, fear cripples them to a job that does not best utilize their talents and doesn't align with their personality or characteristics. We live in a time of instant gratification. People don't want others to see them start from the bottom. On social media, we want to look as if we have got it together and things are going perfectly. Many try to keep up an image of having it made even if life is not what they portray. I believe that sitting on your gifts are dangerous. Why? Because when you don't realize your full potential, you fail to make a contribution. There is somebody out there who needs to hear your story because they are experiencing something similar. There is somebody out there who wants to buy your product. There is somebody out there who needs your services because you would provide that extra touch. It's as simple as that. You don't have to know what you want to do. But once you set your intention on finding out what it is, it will be revealed to you over time. So long as you do the work. In my next blog post, I will discuss how you can discover your gifts. Muah!

Bye To The Good Woman

Chile can't nothing come between a woman and her will to identify herself as being a "good woman." She holds on tougher than a sew in past 4 months with no touch ups. "If I am a good woman I will get a good man." "If I am a good woman then he won't step out." "If I am a good woman then everything in life will fall into place and I won't get messed over." "I don't understand why he left! I was a good woman to him!" I just laugh whenever I hear this now. Holding on to the badge of being a "good woman" has never saved you. Here is my definition of a good woman. She goes to church faithfully and gives cheerfully, but never puts in the work needed to accomplish her goals. In her mind, she did x and y, but not the z. She believes God will just drop down success. But hunty, Faith without works is dead. In addition, this "good woman" lays out the red carpet for any man she is interested in, whether he treats her great or not so great. She will cook for him, sex him good, and just throw out all of the common sense. Unbeknownst to her, many men secretly love heauxs, so most likely, her attempts will be looked at as too easy. He will fade faster than a hair cut. She will be wondering what happened because in her mind, she did everything right. The next will be the good woman on the job. The one that has a degree and most importantly, the know how, but are passed over for people that are more assertive. The go getting bishes. Life just happens to her. She doesn't know that she must make life happen for her. She believes that if she does everything right, then things will be ok. And when things aren't right, she can't figure out why. Stay with me here. Being a good woman is a noble thing. But please lets stop associating being a good women with holding on to things that don't serve us, that are detrimental to our success, and that hinders our growth. I envy men in their ability to be selfish sometimes when their needs are not being met. As a woman, we are told that we are to be selfless. Making sure everyone's needs are are met. But how can you take care of others, I mean truly take care of others, unless you needs are met? And I'm not saying go and be a bad woman in the way one may think is a bad woman. A bad woman is one who puts her needs at the top. She knows what she wants and what feels good to her. It doesn't mean that her needs are number 1 all the time. It means that she knows how to adjust accordingly and keep things in balance. In order to get to this point in life, I think we have to realize that our feelings matter. We don't have to feel the need to keep being martyrs to others and their feelings. I hope to move towards a generation of women that challenge the status quo of what it means to be a good woman. That narrative is self serving to others, but can be detrimental to the most selfless and our health. I see more fearless woman who strike a healthy balance between their needs and kids, spouse/partner, other family and friends needs. Muah!

2018: The Year Of Your Glo Up

Happy New Year Bishes! 2017 is gone and never to be seen again. It may not have gone so well or maybe you made the promises of all the things you will do better from 2016, and didn't do shit. Whatever it was, it is gone and the fresh start begins. Now granted, you don't have to wait until a whole new year to implement a change, but dammit, something about the new year just makes you feel all fresh. I think people are starting to realize that time is flying by and we can't keep dreaming of all of these lofty goals without IMPLEMENTING them. Take action to get to where you want. Sitting around wishing (and hating on others lol) that goals will just accomplish themselves is not going to work. You know what else is not going to work? Half-assing goals. What do I mean by half-assing? You know when you KNOW you aren't 100 percent committed to a goal, but will do it and are indifferent on the outcome? You work on the goal when you feel like it, so long as it doesn't inconvenience you and your Netflix appointment. I am so guilty of this! But no more. Let this be your year to shine. I don't care if you have 1 damn goal set for this year, work until it is accomplished! Do not allow another year to pass and you fail to Glo Up your life. A Glo Up doesn't necessarily have to just be aesthetics. You can Glo Up in different parts of your life for example your finances, spirituality, relationally, or career wise. But assess any of those areas. Take out a sheet of paper a divide all of these categories and list 4 goals for each. Keep this paper in sight or in a notebook that you refer to periodically. Do things differently. Mediocrity is no longer accepted. Get to work on time. Go the extra mile at work. Even though you don't want to be there, be excellent while you plan your exit strategy. You should look back and see GROWTH! We can't continue on year in and year out and getting the same results. This is the time to realize your dreams. We have more than enough time and in the same breath, time is running out. You owe it to yourself to accomplish these goals.  They are calling you. Muah!

About Me

Hi! My name is Robinette.

Founder & Editor

I am not a role model… just a messenger. Since I can remember, I have been in love with helping myself to do better and helping others.



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