Many women are living in a box.
We grind day in and day out and don't have time to experience the new.
For many women, our day consists of getting up around 6am, getting ourselves (and kids) dressed, driving to school then work, work from 9a-5p, come home to cook from scratch, clean up, do homework and then sleep. This is done every week and leaves little time for healthy living.
Where is the time to cook a nutritious meal when I am tired and the drive thru lane is not crowded?
When do I have time to workout when I just worked 9 hours, my kids have to eat and the gym doesn't have child care services?
I would like to attend that new event that I was invited to but I am just too damn tired!
My personal care has definitely suffered and I don't feel as vibrant and alive as I used to.
My days are just crashing into each other and I can no longer tell day from night.
Everyday feels like that damn scene from the Groundhog Day movie.
Then there is the pressures on the job to perform well and the many personal issues one must tend too.
These pressures are for many women both single and married. This is because things such as childcare arrangements, cooking and cleaning are still viewed as womanly jobs. When a child is sick, the woman is more likely to have to take off work. When she gets home, mom, is more likely to be expected to keep a clean house and cook a five course meal. Because a woman that can't keep a clean house and/or cook is not a real woman.
Those ideas came about when a woman's job was to take care of home.
But now women are expected to do it all and do it well.
So how does a woman find balance in this world? How does she work, cook nutritious meals, clean, have a bubbling social life, keep her marriage/relationship hot, have great, wonderful, amazing sex, go to church (or other worship), attend school, keep her body Beyoncé tight and look wonderful, have days where she does absolutely nothing, and raise her kids?
She doesn't. One of these things will most likely suffer.
I think the big issue is societal expectations of women. Women are expected to do it all, be all and look great doing it. And many women have accepted that and internalized that notion as well. We are expected to hold on to traditional customs such as cooking and cleaning while taking on new customs such as working and progressing in our careers. I have said this before and will say it again. Woman, set your own standards. Be your own person. Establish your own rules and abide by them. We can't be everything to everyone. When we put ourselves first, everything else will be taken care of.