"I am a conqueror and I don't accept defeat." I love Estelle's version, but that Jussie Smollet dude from Empire *hears harps** Those lyrics indicate how we should live our lives. Yes, the bad times come and make us want to give up, but we should understand that better days are coming. Don't give up. There have been many times, even now, where I am like "Can't take another day lol."
My daddy, my best friend, the one person who has been in my corner 100 percent passed away a couple weeks ago. This was after watching him deteriorate in hospice for 8 months. It was hard and very lonely. It still is difficult. But I know one thing he instilled in me is tenacity and resilience. That defeat is not an option. Only greatness can and should prevail. But you have to keep looking forward, not backwards. And at the same time, being grateful for the present.
In life you will get many curveballs.
And you will wonder where that ish came from lol. Many times will come up where you have to get up and go about your day when you feel like staying in bed. Or even the days where you hate the mornings because you are so hurt. Nobody is going to get up for you. I mean yeah, you have friends and family that will help for awhile but at the end of the day it is up to you. It is up to you to say, I am not going to let this stop me or I am a success no matter what. Just get up. Do one thing that makes you happy and continue to do so. From there you will seek other things that make you happy.
However, I do realize that sometimes things are not that simple. We all know your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. You have a few positive thoughts and endless negative thoughts. What grows is the side you feed. Some people have a predisposition to mental illnesses through genetics, environment, etc and need to seek the help of a therapist and/or meds.
(Please seek the help if this is you!!!) I am a proponent of this. Do not be ashamed, ever! But even if that is you, guess what? You are still responsible for your life. You are still the one that has to take those steps to beast this life out. It is possible. Conquer it.