CURRENTLY BROWSING : Chic Lounge

Be That As It May: Life Is What You Make Of It

Life is what we make of it. It doesn't mean that we will not experience hurts and growing pains. It does not mean that boo thang won't piss us off or our boss won't work our nerves. It means that our response to things, determine the course of our lives. Whatever reaction we give to a circumstance can change our lives for the good or for the not so good. One thing I have and am still learning is to be more present in the moment. Oftentimes when a not so desireable situation occurs, we don't usually respond nicely. This is because our mind is focused on something else. Most likely, it is some ish that has occurred in the past or something that we think will occur. Past or future. The present moment only offers those experiences we are currently experiencing like right now. And then the moment is over. We are always waiting on a perfect moment to do or be something. Once I get a new job, I will start my business on the side. Once I get into a relationship with someone who loves me is when I will be happy. What's the logic of putting all of your duckets in a future occurrence, when the opportunity to create your life occurs in the present? You dislike your current job? That's all the more reason to start your side hustle. And also, I can bet there is at least one thing you can appreciate about the job. Even if that is the fact that eventually, they have to let your ass go home lol. Waiting on somebody to love you before you can be happy? Good luck! You must work to already attain self love on your own. You don't ever want to be blessed with a loving relationship or (anything for that matter) that you haven't opened up the space and capacity to receive. Why? Because your mind is very creative and will find a way to sabotage it. Trust me lol. So, what are some things you want to do and accomplish? Say that you have those things now. Yes, I know you may have $6.44 to your name, but focusing on that will continue to get you more broke-ness. We tirrreddd of that. We tired of getting the same thing month in and month out. Let's try something new by being focused on the blessings we do have. And watch our blessings expand. Muah!

Slay The Vision Board

Everyone needs a vision. We need to have a working plan for what we want to accomplish in life. No, everything may not go as planned, but at least you will have an idea. Too many of us are walking around and feeling as if we have no vision, or that we must leave it as a vision, but no you must bring it into fruition. Now, I am a visual person. I must see something to understand or grasp it. What has helped me a great deal is writing dreams/goals down. What has tremendously helped is putting dreams/goals into some form of illustration aka a vision board. Now I am a sucker for a vision board. I love going through my favorite magazines and cutting them up until I have created my perfect,excuse me, ideal life. In creating a vision board you find pictures, words, quotes or things that resonate with you. From there you pair it with other cool things. Then you watch as those things become a checked off mark on your life's to do list. Voila! A vision board works under the idea that if you constantly see something, images etc your mind will work towards bringing it about in your life. Repetition breeds results. So put the positivity on the board and be drawn to happiness. Ok, so maybe I sound like some whimsical fanatic but damnit, I need some joy lol.  
  1. To get started on creating your vision board with your friends, family or self, you need some damn wine. People will blow your high when they take the picture of Beyoncé's body that you will put every so neatly below your beat face selfie pic. So a little wine calms you down and helps you to dream bigger as well lol.
  2. Oh yes, you need your magazines. Preferably magazines you have already thumbed through a few times works well. My fav magazines would be Essence, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, O Magazine and Money magazine. There are usually a wide range of pictures to cut out from love, travel, career to health and wellness. A colorful sharpie pen works wonders as you can write in quotes and words you love. You will also need a cutesy poster board, scissors, glue and some meditation time.
A vision board is your dream for your future. It's the direction you want your life to go in. We all need a little guidance to help us from wondering around lost. Give a vision board a try? Muah!

4 Ways To Channel Your Inner Beyoncé, Bitch

I love me some Baddie Badeus Bey. She is like the epitome of bossing ish. Men and women bow down. Ok, hold on as I jump off of her proverbial jock. Now, I am sure that like all women, Beyoncé has her insecurities. But since she is always "on" damnit you won't ever see that ish. All we see are the performances, the appearances, the poise and straight up confidence. We see a woman who is truly living her passion and works harder than anyone else in the biz. She truly deserves her props.  What makes her great is her ability to be consistent. To keep pressing forth despite the rumors, the naysayers and the crappy days I am sure she has. The average person has a setback and are like, "I quit." "Eff it, eff the world, the world is not going to miss my talent." Not to Beyoncé. She has the utmost confidence that the world would truly be missing out on great works and that her voice must be heard. But you know what makes her greater? What makes Beyoncé greater is the attitude. It's like how dare this bitch? How dare she dream so big? The audacity of her to want to accomplish great things. The audacity for her to want to surround herself with the finest things in life...and here I was content with my crumbs. Who does this chick think she is? A rarity..... via GIPHY Yes, hater, she is a unicorn. Not because she is God or anything but because she has been able to do what most of us choose not to.  She choose to follow her dreams and dare you to stop her. Most of us are watching as she is in the spotlight. Not for the sake of just being in the spotlight, but because that is her passion. Entertaining our lazy, aspirational asses is what gives her life! She lives and breathes it. I can sleep for 9 hours and still not want to bring my butt in to work! Beyoncé is quoted to once saying that she didn't eat for days because she was rehearsing and she simply forgot! I can't even let a snicker break pass before I feel my world crumbling. Ok, Robinette, so how do I become Beyoncé and get a man with money like Jay-Z and jet set around the world..... *Face Palms* I said "channel" bitch not steal her life lol. First things first: Confidence. I don't care if you have a lil tootie booty and have to pose in different angles to make it look like you got one, own it. It's yours. Your edges gone? Shift the focus to your cute toes.  And remember, confidence is not I hope they like me, but I don't give a f*** if they like me. Secondly: Go after what is yours. Chase those dreams. Work hard and grind till you own it. It is yours for the taking. The only person that is holding you back is the person that has always been holding you back. Which is you. Conquer yourself and slay those dreams. Thirdly: Change your attitude. We try to change but we keep the same damn attitude about things.  "Well I want to accomplish XYZ, but I don't think I deserve it, so why try?"  Feelings of inferiority, worthlessness, undeserving will keep you way from the top and experiencing everyday which turns into every year that seems like the scene from the Groundhog Day movie. You will get the same shit. Elevate yourself. Fourth and finally. I love the number four and so does that Beyoncé. What do you want to be appreciated for? Any woman can get attention. Throw on your favorite body con, walk out the house, tada! Some disgusting ass cat calls. But how many women you know can get the appreciation of important people? Not many. And don't say that because Beyoncé is a singer and light skinned that her talent is more important lol. It is not. You have within you the capacity to save 100 kids from poverty. How is that not as important? We should be seeking to do those things that will bring us appreciation. Whether it is expressing yourself in the arts, sciences, speaking etc whatever it is, you have it in you. Now go get it out, MUAH!

About Me

Hi! My name is Robinette.

Founder & Editor

I am not a role model… just a messenger. Since I can remember, I have been in love with helping myself to do better and helping others.

Instagram

Archive

%d bloggers like this: