We all have those moments where it seems like things are falling apart. We are sending out resumes and not getting calls back for a job. The bills are outweighing the resources, failing a class, getting fired, boo done went ghost (again) lol etc. It may seem and totally feel as if your life is off track and will stay that way. You look up and began to get discouraged about what you believe is your permanent place in life now. You start to get familiar with the negativity and lose hope that things will pop off. But I am here to tell you that those things are not. Our minds are hardwired to gravitate towards the negative. That’s why we have to work to stay positive. We have to work to see our selves rising. We have to see our lives and our God as powerful. Those mountain of bills, relational issues, mental and emotional issues, job issues, tell them how big your God is. I know, I have been there. I do not want to talk about anything positive when I am going through it. I just don’t want to hear it. But I have learned that nobody is going to save me. No one is going to take me by my hand and tell me exactly what I need to do. I can pray and pray, but it is until I pick myself up and begin to do the work, that is when things change. Faith without works is dead boo. So how does one look at what she has and try again? How does she reclaim her luster in life that is slowly being sucked away? Here are my tips below:
4.) Think about all the things you have already overcome. You have been through some ish before, right? Things crumbled and you thought you weren’t going to make it. But look at you. You did! You all styling and profiling bish. Didn’t think it was possible to get over what’s his name? Didn’t think you would find a new job? Sometimes looking back on the past is good to reflect to see where you came from. You are stronger now than you ever were before. You will overcome this.
3.) Daydream. Wait, what?! Yes, I said Daydream. It’s so kiddie like, I know, but it works good. Daydreaming can also be like visualization. You imagine those things that you want. When you are daydreaming, hold those thoughts for 17 seconds. It is really some scientific ish to this y’all, but keep it simple and fun. Your mind is a very, very powerful organ. It can call life and it can end it mentally or emotionally before your body does physically. So overcome the negative thoughts with positive ones. Think life, think a full life. Think of those vacations, businesses and loving relationships-friendly or intimate. You are no longer a prisoner to your mind. You are in control.
2.) Prayer. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” God is there for you to assist you in those trying times. Prayer don’t have to be perfect, you just have to open your heart and believe that those things (good things) are for you.
1.) Start moving. What I mean here is take little steps to better yourself. Take the time to figure your life out. Get out some paper and pen. Write out things you would like to accomplish. Goals, to do lists, etc. There is so much to be done and you are responsible. No one else. Your life’s success or failures are all on you boo.
You have the power. We have the power. I know it sounds cheesy, but you do. No one can take this away from you. Unless you let them. Step up. It is a difficult task, but the rewards are rightfully yours.