Friends! How many of us have them? Friends! Ones you can depend on...Friends! Oh friends, I have seen them come and go. I would consider myself a great friend. Mainly because I find it difficult to juggle too many friends at once, thus giving me the chance to deeply cultivate the ones I do have. A true friendship is one that is beneficial for both individuals and involves a lot of give and take. I would say for the most part, I have had some great close friends and not so great "friends." I have compiled some reasons as to why it is important that you learn to choose your friends wisely.5. Your business stays your business. This old saying is the truth: If your friend will talk with you about somebody, they will talk about you with somebody. What makes you think that some one you "run it" with will not go behind your back and tell your business? It can be masked as the person telling another's business, but attempts to turn it into them giving said friend "constructive advice" all the while behind that friends back. We have all done it before. Gossiped about somebody because we just had to tell someone, but would end it with "yea girl I hope she gets it together," kind of thing. It is still gossip and should be avoided. You have too much to do besides being someone's trash dump. If you can get together with a friend and get the tea or run it, you best believe that friend will tell others about your issues. A person that loves to hear gossip loves to gossip. Watch for those things. 4. Jealousy-If you are a woman and have never encountered a frenemy you need to reevaluate your life because you are not doing something right. This is the friend that you can instantly click with, and as this "friend" gets to know you more and get an inside view of your life, their eyes begin to get green. It starts gradually with them eyeing things you have and masking them as compliments. Then it turns to slick hate type things. Then it turns to them being nonchalant when you tell them great news. Then it turns into them only telling you bad things about yourself. I have encountered this on occasion and did not recognize these signs at first, but in retrospect the signs were there. 3. You are the sum total of your closest friends- Take a look at 5 of your friends. You are the sum total of those individuals. You spend a substantial amount of time with these people and possibly pick up on their habits-good and bad. What kind of people do you have around you. Are they ambitious go-getters or are they underachieving dreamers? This is important because if you want to get somewhere in life, you must evaluate who you have in your circle. Sometimes people can unintentionally (and intentionally) hold you back. 2. You will only go as far as them-This is important rule as it suggests that in life you will only go as far as your friends. It is akin to the saying "birds of a feather flock together. When we get friends we attract people that have similar interests, personality, etc. This is a good and bad thing. It can be a good thing if the people have more admirable characteristics or personality than not. For example, becoming friends with a person that has an ambitious nature can be beneficial because you will most likely want to become a little mover and shaker yourself to keep up. If you have more friends that cannot stay committed to things that improve their lives it is actually a reflection of you and things you have going on within you. Now this is not to say that you can't have one slacker type friend because most people need time to figure out who they are and what they want. But if you have more underachieving friends than not, you should conduct a self evaluation and see why you are attracted to those types. 1. They will have your back-This is a no brainer. This is the person you can call for $10 dollars for gas and they won't clown you. You can call them for money for food and they won't tell everybody. You can tell them about your dreams and aspirations and they will give you helpful advice. This friend will encourage you to move forward in life, and wholeheartedly believe it. Do you agree with this list? Please comment.
What is your purpose in life?
Why are you here on earth? What gifts has God instilled in you that are specific and unique to you and only you?
Having a purpose is wonderful and guess what? Every person that is living has a purpose(s). Everyone has a purpose in life that they are “supposed” to fulfill. I put the word suppose in quotations because the sad truth is that many people do not know they have a purpose. The thing is it is not because they do not want to have a purpose or destiny. It is because they think having a purpose is for other, more special people.
It seems like most people think these sabotaging thoughts not realizing that they are in fact those “other” people and “special” person. I once asked an older individual what their purpose is in life and she said a wonderful yet what I believe to be a generic answer. After hesitating she said her only purpose in life was “To raise my kids.” While this is one of the greatest and fulfilling endeavors a person can embark on, I, being the high achiever felt the answer I was given wasn't sufficient and didn’t require much thought.
Moms stay with me lol
To further elaborate lets say that your sole purpose in life is to JUST raise your kids. What are you raising them as? Are you raising them to be God fearing and compassionate of others? Are you raising them to be leaders and to be ambitious? The main issue I have with an answer as such is what happens when your children are older and have left the nest. Does that mean that your purpose in life is done and your sole reason for living has passed? No, because you are still living. As long as you have breath in your lungs you have a purpose to fulfill.
It saddens me to see wonderful, beautiful women who are living below their dreams and aspirations because they have not taken the time to seek out their purpose. I wholeheartedly believe that you can only live a full life as God intended if we are living within our purpose. Women, it is time to examine your life and become aligned.
Am I a b**** for feeling this way?
Are you living a life of purpose?