Keeping Your Faith Tight

We, myself included always talking about "keeping something tight." Whether it be our body, keep it right, keep it tight girl; our hair, Girl, allow me to gather these edges; or other ahem "things" tight lol. But, I rarely hear about people wanting to keep their faith tight or just actively working on it like we do our bodies. It's like we through caution to the wind and the storm pop up and we like WTF? We threw caution to the wind, working these fine bodies out, but neglecting our faith. Faith is that thing that will sustain you when your physical body is sick. Faith is what will keep you from jumping off a bridge because the pressures of the world is so much. Faith is what holds us at night when things are tough. And guess what? Things do get tough. There will come times in our life when we have to pick ourselves up. These are the times that we won't have anyone else to turn to and that's ok. For that is the time where we learn of our strength and how powerful we are. We most importantly learn how powerful God is. He can deliver us, but God is funny acting sometimes lol. He wants for us to see that in Him is who we should rely on. Not man, family, friends, jobs, money in the bank, etc. There is a storm for different lessons and some you can't pay your way out of. The only way out is through. Sometimes we must be isolated. We come out stronger, wiser, more sensitive to ourselves and the needs of others. However, it is in this time that is most difficult. Life looked so promising a month ago, damn what happened? But let me do like the Pastors say: I got a Word for you! Keep the Faith! Don't Waver. It is going to be ok. Things will be better on the other end then it was before. You are built for it. The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy, BUT my God! The enemy sees whats in our future and wants to discourage us from walking in our purpose to get our promise, but don't let him win. We are so close to the promise. Keep the faith!

Black Women Equal Pay Day: Run Me My Money

Today, July 31, 2017 is Black Women's Equal Pay Day. It means we as Black Women, must work 7 months into 2017 to be paid the same as White men in 2016. How sway you say? Yes, black women are at the bottom in terms of pay and wealth for that matter. What can you do with an extra $840,000? Well that is the income the Black Women lose in income as compared to a White man's salary over a lifetime. .63 cent to every dollar a White male earns is what a Black woman makes. Whenever we talk about the pay wage gap, it's usually talked about in terms of White women, but Black women are losing out even more. More than any demographic. It takes a Black Woman 19 months to earn what a White Man earns in a year! According to Myth #1: If black women worked harder, they’d get the pay they deserve. The truth: Black women work more hours than white women. They have increased work hours 18.4 percent since 1979, yet the wage gap relative to white men has grown. Over the last several decades, both black and white workers have increased their number of annual hours in response to slow wage growth. While men typically work more hours than women, the data reveal that growth in work hours, for both whites and blacks, was heavily driven by the growth of work hours among women. The increase in annual hours is particularly striking for workers in the bottom 40 percent of the wage distribution, where it has been driven almost entirely by women. Among lower paid workers, the growth in annual hours is larger for black women than for white women and men. This trend is particularly striking for the lowest wage workers. In the bottom fifth, annual hours for black women grew 30.1 percent (from 1,162 hours/year to 1,511 hours/year) between 1979 and 2015 compared to a 27.6 percent increase (from 1,086 hours/year to 1,386 hours/year) for white women and a 3.2 percent increase (from 1,553 hours/year to 1,602 hours/year) for white men. Working moms are significant contributors to this trend—half of all African American female workers are moms, as are 55.3 percent of Hispanic working women and 44.5 percent of white female workers – although women often face a wage penalty when taking time out of the workforce to care for children. While all moms are working more hours per year and contributing more to their households financially, African American working moms are uniquely central to the economic well-being of their families. Even when faced with the added demands on their time that come with having a family, in 2015, married black women with children worked over 200 hours more per year than married white or Hispanic women with children, and 339 hours more than black single mothers. Married black working moms also worked 132 hours more per year than childless non-elderly black working women. Myth #2: Black women can educate themselves out of the pay gap. The truth: Two-thirds of black women in the workforce have some postsecondary education, 29.4 percent have a bachelor’s degree or higher. Black women are paid less than white men at every level of education. The figure below shows average wages for white men and black women in 2016. As black women increase their educational attainment, their pay gap with white men continues to grow. The largest gap, of nearly $17 an hour, occurs for workers with more than a college degree. But even black women with an advanced degree earn less, slightly more than $7 an hour less, than white men who only have a bachelor’s degree.
 So what is the is the solution? Is there still a solution? I am not sure at this point.

Real Recognize Real. 4 Ways To Spot A Real One.

"I'm the realest dude you know." Chile if I had a penny for every time I heard this escape a guys' lips when I was younger. I have learned that this can be attributed to a certain street cred, or whatever it is they go by. It doesn't necessarily translate into how they treat others. But as I grew older I have learned that being real is necessarily just that. How you treat others. The ability to treat others with respect, in front of and especially behind their back matters. When you come to the table and have good intentions for someone else, matters. But how do we attract people that are not going to have us looking crazy outchea' in dese streets lol? A lot of times when we get tied up in someone that claimed to be real and found out they were faker than a $3 dollar bill, we failed to recognize the signs of a real one. And it's not always that we fail to recognize the signs, but we really don't know what they are. I always say the simplest way to know if a guy is who he says he is, does he call back when he said he will. A damn phone call is free. We as women make too many excuses for the men that we have in our space. It is time to start creating space for the real ones to come into our lives. Here is how to spot them. 4. He is consistent. It's simple. Guy meets girl, and he is instantly infatuated with her. He is calling ALL THE DAMN TIME and always answers when she calls. They stay on the phone for hours and hours and the woman thinks they are building a connection. He buys flowers, little gifts and does the most. Then the woman catches feelings, which is completely normal. Then, for whatever reason, maybe they had sex too soon for his liking or he sees that he was able to get her to like him, and he looses interest. Girl can see the interest dwindling down by less phone calls and time spent together until he eventually goes...GHOST. Girl then sees what it was and then moves on with her life. Here is the trick part: It is at this very moment that the guy comes back with some excuse as to why he dipped out like a Houdini's intern. And what happens a lot is the girl takes him back and it is a back and forth thing. One thing I have learned is that love will be consistent. It is not going to keep you guessing and wondering where you stand. If someone is taking you through this, it is them....AND your ass. It's them because they have some fear-whether it is fear of love, fear of something better coming along, etc. But it is something that have nothing to do with you and you shouldn't wreck your brain trying to figure it out. It is also you because you have to wonder why and the hell are you attracted to someone that is unsure of you. You should love yourself more to know that you deserve the absolute best. And nothing less. 3. He helps you in a bind. You have a flat tire, he can come put your donut on. Do you need money for a new tire? He covers that, because you don't have it. What I am saying is, he won't leave you hanging. The way you can see where you stand with a guy is to pick up the phone, call him right now and ask him for a favor. That is how you know. 2. Your safety is important. When he drops you off from a date, he is not speeding off to the corner of the next bish lol. He texts you occasionally to make sure you got home ok. He just wants to be a protector, but not be overbearing. 1. He does what he says he will do. Call back? He did or will text (at least). Going out on a date, HE WILL NOT CANCEL, especially the first few dates. Unless he is having a real serious issue, a guy will not cancel a date. He will remember a date, you won't have to call him to confirm. Please don't ever do that. If he says he got you on something, he will remember. Well, ladies take this list that is tried and true from my trials and error. Of course, there are many different scenarios, but you be the judge. Oh before I forget! Make sure you are a real one yourself. It is hard to spot a real one if you are not absolutely in love with yourself. When you don't love yourself, you let others drag you through the mud. That's boo. Muah!  

When A Bish Get Some Power: 4 Ways You Can Realize Yours

We all have those moments where it seems like things are falling apart. We are sending out resumes and not getting calls back for a job. The bills are outweighing the resources, failing a class, getting fired, boo done went ghost (again) lol etc. It may seem and totally feel as if your life is off track and will stay that way. You look up and began to get discouraged about what you believe is your permanent place in life now. You start to get familiar with the negativity and lose hope that things will pop off. But I am here to tell you that those things are not. Our minds are hardwired to gravitate towards the negative. That's why we have to work to stay positive. We have to work to see our selves rising. We have to see our lives and our God as powerful. Those mountain of bills, relational issues, mental and emotional issues, job issues, tell them how big your God is. I know, I have been there. I do not want to talk about anything positive when I am going through it. I just don't want to hear it. But I have learned that nobody is going to save me. No one is going to take me by my hand and tell me exactly what I need to do. I can pray and pray, but it is until I pick myself up and begin to do the work, that is when things change. Faith without works is dead boo. So how does one look at what she has and try again? How does she reclaim her luster in life that is slowly being sucked away? Here are my tips below: 4.) Think about all the things you have already overcome. You have been through some ish before, right? Things crumbled and you thought you weren't going to make it. But look at you. You did! You all styling and profiling bish. Didn't think it was possible to get over what's his name? Didn't think you would find a new job? Sometimes looking back on the past is good to reflect to see where you came from. You are stronger now than you ever were before. You will overcome this. 3.) Daydream. Wait, what?! Yes, I said Daydream. It's so kiddie like, I know, but it works good. Daydreaming can also be like visualization. You imagine those things that you want. When you are daydreaming, hold those thoughts for 17 seconds. It is really some scientific ish to this y'all, but keep it simple and fun. Your mind is a very, very powerful organ. It can call life and it can end it mentally or emotionally before your body does physically. So overcome the negative thoughts with positive ones. Think life, think a full life. Think of those vacations, businesses and loving relationships-friendly or intimate. You are no longer a prisoner to your mind. You are in control. 2.) Prayer. "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you." God is there for you to assist you in those trying times. Prayer don't have to be perfect, you just have to open your heart and believe that those things (good things) are for you. 1.) Start moving. What I mean here is take little steps to better yourself. Take the time to figure your life out. Get out some paper and pen. Write out things you would like to accomplish. Goals, to do lists, etc. There is so much to be done and you are responsible. No one else. Your life's success or failures are all on you boo. You have the power. We have the power. I know it sounds cheesy, but you do. No one can take this away from you. Unless you let them. Step up. It is a difficult task, but the rewards are rightfully yours. Muah!

Thank Me Later: 28 Life Lessons For The Black Millennial Chick

As I bring my 28th year to a close (next month) I am reflecting on some life lessons that I have learned in this time. It is good to reflect on life and see how to improve and what to pass on to the next generation.
  1. You are responsible for your life.
  2. Fairy tales aren't real! No man will come rescue you. Not from your uneventful life or financially. You have to throw the life vest out to yourself.
  3. Confidence is your best accessory. Wear it well.
  4. Make good connections and maintain genuine relationships.
  5. It is not selfish to put yourself first.
  6. Your goals are attainable. Pursue them.
  7. Believe that you are able and then others will believe it also.
  8. Someone else's opinion of you has nothing to do with you.
  9. If you settle for less, don't be surprised at what you get.
  10. Set your standards with boos from the start. Let him know what your expectations are in your ACTIONS not just your words. No Netflix and Chill. Don't let him stop by the house just to chat until he has taken you on a few dates.
  11. Experience the new. Stay away from people who tell you what they won't ever try.
  12. Stay in your own lane. Don't worry about what others are doing and what they have done to get it.
  13. Don't talk about another woman's vagina. What she does with hers is her responsibility, not yours. Keep up with your vagina only.
  14. Speaking of: make sure to get your check ups down there!
  15. Start doing something about your financial future now.
  16. No one should be able to guilt trip you into anything. Sex, favors, loaning money, nothing.
  17. It is ok to have a small circle of friends. You don't need a big entourage, because best believe there is a hater somewhere in there.
  18. Set strong boundaries for yourself.
  19. Whatever it is that you do, put 110% into it.
  20. Sometimes, it is best to do nothing.
  21. Assess the energies you allow into your life.
  22. Make travel a priority.
  23. Date men who DO what they say, not what they SAY they will do.
  24. If he disappears once and then tries to come back, don't let him back. That usually means she didn't want him and he is coming back to someone that he knows does.
  25. Look at your circle. If you are the only one making boss moves, you need to expand to find others doing the same thing as you.
  26. Learn how to say no and not be afraid of hurting anyone's feelings.
  27. Stop waiting for the perfect time to do something. The stars won't align unless you take action.
  28. Continue to use contraceptives until you are absolutely able to take care of a child.

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Hi! My name is Robinette.

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I am not a role model… just a messenger. Since I can remember, I have been in love with helping myself to do better and helping others.



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