You know what it is. You have noticed it with some of your Facebook friends. The ones that seemingly had “IT” together, now looks a little frumpy. There is a popular phrase for this….”He/She Fell Off.”
If you ask me, I can pinpoint the exact time in life in which I “fell off.” Fell off of what you say? You know that time or period in your life when you are not up to par in your endeavors. For example, your style of dress is no longer the trendiest and you can’t afford to have your hair laid like you used to.
This happens to women for many reasons. The stresses of a new baby or the loss of a job. For me this unfortunate time in my life happened sometime in my pregnancy and it took YEARS for me to climb out of this rut. Mainly because I decided to go back to school when my child was a year old and was unable to work full time because of school demands. It was a sacrifice that I made to put my future as a priority and deny my wants at the time…getting my nails done, hair done, buying clothes. And that was a HARD time.
I am conflicted as to whether that is an inevitable part of life and wisdom of knowing no one will be on top forever or could that, me letting myself go have been prevented and was there a deeper root of me allowing that to happen to myself. Who knows, it could be a combination of both. But anyhow, I have compiled a list to keep you from getting stuck in the rut and keeping control of your fabulousness.
5. Workout-Got 30 minutes? Stop lurking on Facebook, Twitter, and flexing on Instagram and watch one of the many YouTube workout vids. Gosh this is a no brainer but who the hell has time for it? The answer is: you do! If you have access to this blog, you have both things needed which is a lot of idle time and access. But no, you would rather surf Instagram, FB and critique other women bodies (don’t lie) and say how they’re (insert slick hate) butt has deflated, butt is not real, butt shots have gotten too big for legs.
When we stop looking at others, it gives us time to look within ourselves and see what things we can improve in our lives. Now workout should not be about losing a ton a weight and being on a weight watchers commercial with Jennifer Hudson and them catchy songs. Working out should be about simply getting in shape. If you are depressed, take a step forward and go work out for a week and analyze how you feel about yourself after.
4. Read-I know I may catch flack with this one from the people who say they do not like to read, but what are you doing now? Reading! There is a plethora of self help info and other blogs on the internet that can incite knowledge in all.
3. School-To advance yourself in this day and age and up your income potential go to school. No, you do not have to go to a 4 year university, you can go to a community college to pick up a trade in cosmetology, or health care. Gone are the days where you can get by with no form of education, unless you have a solid business plan and work ethic. Well you can get by, but you will most likely stay at the same income level and that is not good considering the fact that cost of living is steadily rising. Yes school is hard, no you probably won’t always have someone to watch your child, but this is an investment for your future that will keep you on your A game.
2. If you are financially challenged at the time, become a Do It Yourself Diva. This takes some time and creativity lol. What I would recommend is to ALWAYS at the bare minimum get your eyebrows done or learn to do them yourself-make sure you have a Mac eyebrow pencil handy. Oprah says that an eyebrow wax is an instant facelift. It is something so simple and cost a couple of bucks. A fresh eyebrow wax gives your face a glow and will keep your already beautiful face looking its best.
Also, always keep some polish on your nails whether it is a color or a clear coat. There is no shame in having to polish your own nails and toes(given your left hand does not shake on that right hand polish), track your own head, putting your eyelashes on lol. The women back in the day did it. I am amazed at how my mom does not go to the nail or hair salon, but she looks as if she does. She takes the time out of her week to make sure her nails are always polished, which she does herself, and she would cut, dye, roller set her own hair. And she would always have a flock of men after her.
What I have learned in life is that it is not what you have in terms of material things, it is all in how you treat yourself. If you take the time to pamper yourself even if you have to do it yourself, that shows that you love yourself and that is something money cannot buy. Ladies, as it is easy to begin to neglect yourself in a difficult or sacrificial time, even the littlest of woman upkeep can keep you at your best and being the topic of your Facebook “friends” critical eye.
1. Pray to God Himself. Self explanatory. Sometimes life circumstances and people we encounter can knock us off course. We get out of tune with our maker and prayers become shorter then few and far in between. It is important to stay connected because Jesus will keep you on track and keep you at your absolute best.
Well that is it for the list. Do you all agree or could add to this list?